Pitaji khud ke kushi se chal nahi gayei. He died in an accident at workplace, died of overworking, died while fighting enemies in wars. All this high risk activities were done to earn a bit more for the family.
But movies show/imply: pitaji died due to his indulgences, money woman liquor... died in war is double impact to the woman, today's logic!
She lost the earning member, and now she has to earn to live.
The person who died doing high risk jobs to provide her, is of no consequence.
This situation is explained beautifully in the Ramayana:
Valmiki in his previous avatar as the vicious hunter meets Narada, and Narada Rishi explains to him, what he is doing is paap and he alone must suffer on account of these. Valmiki says i do it for my family so they are also equally responsible and accountable. Narada Rishi advises him to chk with his family.
Father and mother refuse claiming its duty of son to care, irrespective of the means of his earnings. So its no!
Wife replies: its husband's duty to provide for all needs and necessities of wife and children and maintain them in happiness. She won't care how he achieved it. So NO from her too.
Then Narada convinces him to do tapas and become capable of writing Ramayana.
So why are we men breaking our heads to get married take care of wife kids and both sets of parents, but we dont get anything in return.
Isnt Narada rishi's advice in treta yuga more relevant meaningful important now, in kaliyuga?
Think deep on this. Any judge in family court will tell u the same what Valmiki's family members told him: its ur duty to ensure ur family is happy and provided with all the luxury they need. Like a Supreme Court Judge said: beg borrow or steal u should pay alimony to ur wife. Even if she is richer than u.
Carefully consider, analyse: for a glass of milk once in a while, do u need to buy the whole cow?
